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Geek Culture / The Awkward Moments Between Friends

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Sasuke
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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 05:11 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 05:11
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Have you ever have an awkward moment or moments with friends? If so, please share you epic moments.

Here's my epic story of my two very odd moments with my best friend:

I'm a guy but nearly all my friends are girls and are gay, one of them being my best friend, well girl best friend. Now before we became friends, I liked her, then we became friends I stopped liking her (lesbian, it ain't happening), which btw she knew just after we became friends (I told her). Then we became ridiculously close/comfortable with each other over the course of 4 months. Btw, she doesn't hang out with any other guys, well straight guys that is.

Someone told her that I liked her going off the old information (4 month old) of when I didn't. She choose to ignore me for a month (which is odd since I already told her that I only liked her before we became friends and she was fine with it, why is now different?) and spend more time with her girl friends. She just turned up one day saying that she wanted to hang again and forget about what happened so I did (didn't have a choice). We hung out again, got very close again.

We got into a weird argument about 1 month and half later, not a real argument, but one of those fake ones where you just make fun of your friends except this one ending up getting really personal. Anyway someone else said "Guy's! can we just have peace now?" and she said "There will be no piece until you bring me a cheese cake to my house" (she loves cheesecake if you didn't gather that). So what did I do, well I brought a cheesecake to her house and left it at the doorstep and texted her to open her front door. I was not expecting what happens next...

I got this message (which she is cool with me posting) in the morning "i have to tell u this i have to stop hangin out wiv u as much and u need to give me space so dnt try to talk to me atm cuz i will just walk away or not listen ive heard some stuff and its scaring me a bit so please just back off". Apparently me dropping a cheesecake off to her house which she asked for made her think I was stalkering her. By the way, we've been close friends for nearly a year when this happened. But wait, it gets worse...

I bumped into her the next day and tried to talked to her about this cause it came from no where. She wouldn't say a word to me and walked off. I was thinking this has to be some sick joke, but no joke, very real. So I talked to her friends, none of them knew a thing about it and didn't understand it. After a day I had 30+ of her friends and her entire family on my side defending me, but she wouldn't tell them why. One friend did some digging for me and found that one of my ex friends (who she is friends with, but never speak to each other) who hates my guts for no reason had sent her a message. Whatever the message was about made them fallout (they're not friends anymore) and cause this entire thing. No one knows what it said.

It took 7 weeks for her to see me again and 2 weeks for her to speak to me. Now everything is fine and dandy. Btw, she doesn't speak about what happened and I'm not allowed to ask her about it. Were not as close as we used to be and I don't think we ever will be again, but that's life, things always change.

I just wish I knew what happened, cause of two events, the liking thing and the cheesecake I didn't actually find out why. She couldn't tell me, and not just me, no one. Whatever they are, see really doesn't want me knowing.

Anyway, that's the end of my epic story with one of my friends.
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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 06:06 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 06:08
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Hmmm, long story I generally don't talk about my feelings with my friends (or anyone) so if someone starts ignoring me or whatever, I just let it go. Everything is a whole bunch easier if I just don't care, so that's what I try to do. Now that I think about it, the only "awkward" thing that happened to me was I went to prom with a long time friend and now we don't ever talk. But, whatever, things tend to sort themselves out in the end. And if they don't, well I rather spend my energy doing something fun or entertaining then fixing relationships.

"So hold your head up high and know. It's not the end of the road"
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Sasuke
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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 06:19 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 06:25
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Quote: "so if someone starts ignoring me or whatever, I just let it go"


I probably should of said zero communication than ignoring. Seriously, it was like I didn't exist to my best friend suddenly (and we're adults, not young), you ain't letting that go so easy I can tell ya.

Quote: "Everything is a whole bunch easier if I just don't care, so that's what I try to do"


Believe me, even if it went south, the moments that it's not are so worth it. I'd rather care than not. The risk, you may get hurt, but what's living without a little pain right? Life's too short, I'm taking in every experience I can get.

Quote: "Now that I think about it, the only "awkward" thing that happened to me was I went to prom with a long time friend and now we don't ever talk"


Oh wow, weird

Quote: "But, whatever, things tend to sort themselves out in the end. And if they don't, well I rather spend my energy doing something fun or entertaining then fixing relationships."


Agreed, unless whatever happens defines your future friendship like mine. It kind of feels like your half friends cause there's some massive secret holding your friendship back. But as you said I'd rather concentrate on better things like finding a job.
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Thats funky man. Gotta wonder what the message was.
Maybe it was accusing you of being a maniacal axe murderer from beyond.

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heyufool1
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Quote: "Seriously, it was like I didn't exist to my best friend suddenly (and we're adults, not young), you ain't letting that go so easy I can tell ya."

Yeah I see what you mean, more serious than anything I've dealt with.

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Quote: "Maybe it was accusing you of being a maniacal axe murderer from beyond."


God I hope not

Quote: "Yeah I see what you mean, more serious than anything I've dealt with."


All I'll say is I hope you never have to experience it.
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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 09:20
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better you than me...

If I were you I would have left a cow poo with lit birthday candles on her doorstep.

I say, enjoy the peace, coz' she'll be pissed off again soon enough.

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Hmm, I just read that entire story and wish I hadn't. That just seems like a slice of life, and nothing really "awkward" per se. I'm not good friends with 99% of the people I was close with in high school, so fall-outs are pretty common I'd assume.


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Ahah, I'm with Jeku on this. I think it's an affliction plaguing many computer geeks.

What I'd bet ($100) is that she just thought it was weird, and between conversations with her friends and what not it all got blown up, and now she doesn't want to talk about it just because she's uncomfortable with it, but in the future (I'd give it 4+ months) she'll regret what she did and apologize. I say that because it's happened to me, and also to some friends. The whole "making mountains out of molehills" thing seems to be really really common.


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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 12:04 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 12:06
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Epic Moment... Happened a few years ago when I was meeting my friend after a year...(im Abhi btw)

"Hey Abhi? Guess what?"
"what?"
"I just met this REALLY hot girl at the club yesterday... I got her number..."
"Cool man... so now you can prove youre not gay "
Well Ill skip ahead in this convo.
"Dude! Shes calling man!"
"Well? Pick up... and put it on speaker!"
"okay"

"Hey Jane"
I tense.
"Hey Max... listen, Im in a rush, but would you meet me tonight at _____ restaurant?"
I whip around.
"Sure Jane... what time?"
I grab the phone from my friends hand...
"What the _____ are you doing Jane?"
Friend looks confused... Jane slams phone.
"what the hell are you doing?" asks Max
"That was my girlfriend you __________"

LOL... that was one of the most awkward BUT funniest moments in my life. Ofcourse we broke up right after, but Max and I are still real good friends just goes to show... you cant trust women (Dont tell my GF)

Cheers,
Anayar


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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 14:10 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 14:10
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Jeku, I would agree but you can extrapolate from that and imagine where the awkward moments would be. Like the 2 weeks we weren't speaking but still hanging out with some friends. And pretty much everyday all they did was try and get us to speak to each other. Like she couldn't open a something and the guy she asked said "Why don't you ask him, he's stronger", clearly he's strong enough to do it. It would of been fine if it was now and then but it was all the time and when drinks were applied, even worse.

Neuro Fuzzy, bang on! It took her about 4 month's though not really an apology, she just said I was an idiot and I'm sorry, clearing avoiding any details about it, then went on about how she's grown as a person which is just a diversion from the topic. It was a half baked apology at best.

anayar, haha wow, that beats mine
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It's normal. Girls will be your best friend one day then the next won't even acknowledge you. And you'll never get a reason as to why.

But umm, so you say all your friends are lesbians? Can I come hang out with you?

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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 17:30 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 17:32
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Quote: "But umm, so you say all your friends are lesbians? Can I come hang out with you?"




Girls are hard enough, lesbian are insane to hang out with. On the outside I'd imagine it's appealing, but on the inside, drama drama drama. It's most common that they hang out in large groups, so if you make friends with one, then you have to make friends with the others, kind of like getting their approval. You'll eventually become what they call an 'Honorary Lesbian', meaning your part of the group even though your a straight guy. All are say is there will be a lot of parties, drunk fun times and tons of over the top drama.

Also not all my friends are, but most are...

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I think some girls can have their emotional flings, even the same for some guys. At my last job a girl came in with the intention of selling her engagement ring, her other half was quite a bit older than her, but then some people do marry older people, but her family knew the guy for quite a while and as soon as he said something like along the lines of, "I've seen you grow into a woman", which crept her out enough to think, 'eww' and she was in the shop in tears about to make the rash decision. I couldn't refuse if she wanted to sell it on those ground, but I talked to her and on the last minute (literally about to sign the agreement) she turned it down.

If the fact you fancied her crept her out...not that I mean you're creepy, just that you're a close friend could have crept her out. At least this is what I'm getting from the story.


But people have these situations with friends. I'm no longer friends with the guy I was best friends with since the age of 4, but he was an a-hole as soon as we became teenagers. I tried the whole 'how I feel' thing then, but there are times where you should drop it and it can either improve or not. Sometimes pressing people can make things worse.

Though, it's good you still hang because it's a sign that she realizes you're a good friend, she might feel some awkwardness, but that ought to pass knowing you're not staring at her butt every time she turns around. I know plenty of people who have asked friends out to find that there's no awkwardness between them. The girls I hang with have had friends ask them out a lot. It's normal.

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Posted: 24th Jul 2011 23:40 Edited at: 24th Jul 2011 23:40
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Quote: "If the fact you fancied her crept her out...not that I mean you're creepy, just that you're a close friend could have crept her out. At least this is what I'm getting from the story."


Nah, she found out that I liked her before we became close friends (I told her that I liked her once), then someone told her again (which I didn't) and she reacted oddly, the only difference this time is we were a lot closer. But after that ordeal we became close again so it's not the fancying thing. Then the cheesecake thing hit and ruin all of that.

Just to clarify, we are... sorry, we were as close as two people can get being friends, so if we were sleeping in the same bed we'd be practically spooning. It's funny cause my girlfriend and her girlfriend at the time thought is was weird, but we usually didn't go to sleep that way (minus a camping trip where it was freezing), it's just the way we'd end up.

Quote: "Sometimes pressing people can make things worse."


Agreed!

Quote: "but that ought to pass knowing you're not staring at her butt every time she turns around."


I hope she doesn't think that. That would be bad.
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Quote: "Then the cheesecake thing"


Must... resist... roleplaying... GRAH.

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Most of my friends are animals. Two pet parakeets at my mother's house, and three pet cats at my father's house.

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One time in the eighth grade, one of the "cool" girls misheard me asking my good friend if he wanted to go outside-- sounds awkward even like that, but it was a damn nice day. She thought I asked him if he wanted to go out, apparently.
So I'm sick the next day from school, right? I come back to a bunch of ridicule and Q&A on whether or not I was gay. A most unfortunate story, though looking back on it... rather funny. I still hate that girl... not simply for reasons aforementioned.

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Quote: "I come back to a bunch of ridicule and Q&A on whether or not I was gay. A most unfortunate story, though looking back on it... rather funny. I still hate that girl... not simply for reasons aforementioned."


You can take that situation as a positive thing though. If people are questioning you on your sexual orientation, then you know that those are not people you want to hang out with, because why should anyone care? Always good to reverse a negative situation around, and if you can't then revert to my tactic of not caring

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Posted: 25th Jul 2011 05:30 Edited at: 25th Jul 2011 05:31
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Quote: "If people are questioning you on your sexual orientation, then you know that those are not people you want to hang out with, because why should anyone care?"

Oh God, yeah. This helped me rule out a good chunk of potential mates

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^All the female ones? Dang. Guess that only leaves one option.


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Quote: "^All the female ones? Dang. Guess that only leaves one option."


I don't really appreciate that.

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