I personally think violence is not the answer. I however am not at school and dont know your situation.
I do know that part of the bully victim selection process is to identify insecurity and inflame it.
part of what can set them off is the way that you carry yourself.
it is difficult to fake confident body language, you can however build confidence and the bodylanguage and demeanor will follow.
any sort of martial art will help you develop confidence.
that is the first line of self defense and the greatest conflict resolution skill provided by martial arts.
there's that old quote "you learn martial arts so that you need not use it"
you know how to defend yourself and are therefore calm and less timid. that carries through every action you do, every word you say, every interaction you make with the world.
Its almost like a force field around you. it wont make you superhuman or invincible but it really will go a long way.
bullys themselves lack confidence. that's why they need to dominate others. you can knock them on their arse and send them off, they may never bother you again, however it furthers the problem in general, because then YOU are another person who has frightened and weakened them. they need to build themselves back up the only way they know how.
there was a guy at my school who was widly understood to be a real badarse. I think he had a rough time at home. he was always yelling,abusing hitting people and generally terrorizing the kids. for some reason one day my mum had to go to their house. that freaked me out a bit, he was a total psycho. but we got there and he seemed really different. our mums sent us "out to play"
it was a bit standoffish. he was huge and angry. all his toys were broken and their lawn had no grass. but he had a slug gun. we took turns shooting cans with the slug gun. after a while we clicked a bit. joked around had fun and for the first time ever he actually seemed happy.
at school we started hanging out a bit, but all the other kids told me "he is a psyco, stay away from him, he will kill you etc" -some of these talks were almost like interventions, almost like people were afraid i was selling my soul to satan.
He was nice to me but flipped out on everyone else and in the end i decided that i really shouldn't hang out with him. i was a little blunt ending the friendship i guess. every time he saw me he hit me. he left school the next year and i was releaved. but looking back, the only time i ever saw him at peace was that brief period of friendship.
another guy at high school used to give me a lot of greif and tease me a lot. one day I grabbed by the throat and rammed him up into his locker and quite graphically threatened him with severe violence.
turns out he really didnt realize his comments bothered me. he ended up being one of my best mates in senior school.
I knew a girl in my class who was quiet and enjoyed reading books. everyone teased her and she just sat there reading her book and ignoring everyone. one day she'd had enough and stood up walked up to the particular girl who was teasing her that day and started hitting her on the top of her head screaming stop laughing at me! the bully girl stood up, grabbed her by the hair and dragged her off her feet shaking her by the head and hair and then kicked her a few times until she begged for mercy. I really felt for her, she had a rough time and her one attempt to stand up for herself really backfired. I saw her years later, she's successful in her work and well off.
my only 3 real fights were horrible affairs and even though i won 2 of them, if i had my time again, i would just walk or run away each time. real violence is ugly and unsettling. when you see a guy that was such a threat a second ago, crying on the ground it messes with your head. but sometimes you cant run I guess, I could only have run away from one of mine.
Quote: ""DO NOT PUNCH ANYONE IN THE NOSE YOU COULD KILL THEM""
There's always a chance of a freak accident causing death, but the whole nose cartilage going into the brain thing is a myth.
Quote: "You could punch them in the throat "
incredibly stupid and dangerous.
Sometimes I like to use words out of contents
