Yeah, I guess you just have to know the conventions in whatever book you're using (which sucks because conventions vary).
Anyways, since I'm studying the subject right now... isn't vector analysis freaking awesome? I've only actually proficient up to stokes' theorem (and related), but I've read through the curvilinear coordinate and tensor analysis sections of the book I'm going through (Schaum outline), and it's crazy stuff. I've always thought I was proficient with coordinate transformations, and that I would be totally OK when it came to curvy coordinate systems, but... the terminology, the actual details of it all, etc. keep getting me confused.
Heh, part of my confusion is actually well expressed in an SMBC comic:
http://www.smbc-comics.com/comics/20120717.gif
Combining partial derivatives, regular derivatives, and differentials in one equation without explanation definitely gets me confused.