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I have a form of autism called "Asperger Syndrome". It means many things, but the part of it that is most relevant to the forums is the lack of people skills.

Due to the Asperger Syndrome, it is nearly impossible for me to know what normal people consider "rude" and what they consider "polite". Such distinctions mean as much to me as the difference between red and blue means to a blind person.

I apologize to all those who I have offended. I have placed a preemptive apology into my signature explaining the situation.

Once again, my deepest apologies.

Hard lines mate. I'm sure everyone will understand and will be very accomodating of you.

Welcome to the forums! Need any help this is a great place to use!

cheers,
Rich

No problem Lucy.

I have my own share of offensive posts & appologies. We strive to be kind, patient, understanding, tollerant; but sometimes things have a way of going a direction we don't intend.

If your words mean good, then nothing is to worry, for if harm is made, one can always appologize for it.
I also find hard to realize if what im saying is harmful, thus i try to keep on the basics of what a must speak, and always give extra explanations.
One thing i'd like to know, are you able to identify if someone is being rude to you?

No problem, it's actually very common to misinterpret people over the internet, we've all done it some time or another because you can't hear someone's tone of voice. I personally use smilies to tell people I'm not trying to be rude so they don't get angry with me.

Only sometimes, and I'm often wrong. I can only work with literal interpretation of words. As such, some words carry entomologies and literal definitions that subtly alter the meaning of their words and people don't think about the literal meanings of words before they speak.

So what happens is I might say "Did you know Jasc was bought up by Corel recently?" and they'll go "Shut UP!" and I'll think they're literally telling me to be quiet in a rude fashion when it's really just an exclamation of surprise.

This even happens when I can hear the tone of someone's voice because while I'm not tone deaf, that only applies to music. My voice is a flat monotone like Daria's from the old MTV cartoon. And when I hear people's voices, unless their tone is blatantly obvious, like stark raving mad or weeping openly, I have no way to gauge someone's emotions even in person.

Not a problem to me. My big brother has Aspergers, and my sister has Cerebral Paulsy, so I find it easy enough to handle. Musn't forget that people such as Albert Einstein and Sir Isaac Newton were believed to have Aspergers too.

@Lucy,

I don't generally like stereo-typing, becuase it's usually used in hurtful ways.

But I would venture to guess that many of us have some form of difficulty when it comes to personal relations. I don't want to put all of us in that box, but in my experience programmers and artists alike usually have some quirks when it comes to person-to-person communication.

I'm not so introverted or anything, but I do have my moments. What I find in my life, is that I'm not always able to relate to people, or they just don't get me at times.

I have a hard time reading body language (when I am excited about a topic), and I genereally don't recognize when people think I'm talking too much, too fast, or in circles. Or if I do recognize it, I guess getting my idea out becomes more important than what I think the other person is trying to tell me.

I also find that I tend to over analyze things, and I find my reasoning leans towards the logical rather than the emotional side.

I also have a hard time of getting directly to the point. I tend to like language, and my own way of discussing something. I give a lot of background, I weave my explanations and don't stick to a linear time-line; rather I jump all around and then finally (try to) tie everything together.

Perhaps I like my own voice, or typing. To me it's interesting. Others can find it annoying. Sometimes I am overly verbose. I love using analogies, and tend to give 5 different angles of looking at something (even if the person understood me the first time).

I can easily get frustrated if someone doesn't follow what I am saying. And a lot of times my way of talking gets mixed up with people thinking I am trying to be a "know it all". I just like offering my views, and I like friendly debate. Their are occasions though that I can go over the top. When I calm down and re-read or rethink my actions, I can be overcome with a feeling of guilt.

I've tried to come to terms with my personal quirks, and embrace them. I also have to recognize when and where I need to filter myself a bit. Like now, LOL, I think this post grew longer than anticipated. So time to close my pie-hole!

If you ask me, anyone who writes programs for these damn infernal computer thingies has to be just a little bit crazy in the first place!

TDK_Man

agreed TDK!

Lucy, I haven't noticed you being rude and I'm not aware that anyone else has so no worries. Just make a great DB game and all future mishaps shall be forgiven.