The first DarkMATTER has mesh deform support as well as a nice memblock system, which means it would be good for getting geared up for pro - although I reckon you'd be as well just using pro already. DarkMATTER is a pack of several 3D models for use in your games.
To make levels in DBC/DBPro with lightmapping etc, look at Cartography Shop - it uses a second copy of the level model to give a shadow 'layer'.
In answer to your question about a modeller that does all that - 3DS Max, but it ain't easy or cheap.
I reckon you should cool your jets for a month or so, see what happens with the next DBPro patch and other developments.
Van-B

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