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Sid Sinister
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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 07:44
Whelp. Today is my 20th b-day. I'm excited in many ways. Those angst ridden teen years can't touch me anymore. I never really was full of that teenage rebel BS, or into that whole 'teen' scene, but regardless... I can't help but feeling a little sad. I mean that's a chapter closed now you know? That's a series of years that I'll never be able to return to.

I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. I really am excited, but I just can't seem to shake this depressed feeling. I know some of you here are like stfu, I'm 40 (lol), so my bad.

I have a lot of years ahead of me though! As one door closes another one opens, and I can't wait to write the next chapter in life. I just completed my associates in computer animation and am trying to break into the industry, I have registered for game software development in the fall, and I have myself a sweet girlfriend who, even if I wanted to, can't get out of my head and heart. These next decades will be awesome I'm sure. God willing

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 09:00
stfu, I'm 40.
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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 09:09
Quote: "stfu, I'm 40."


Lol!

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 11:59
Welcome to the club. You will find that things only go downhill from here.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 12:29 Edited at: 19th Jun 2009 12:29
That's okay. When you are within a year of 70, you will not remember how bad you are feeling now about turning old.
Happy Birthday.
Seppuku Arts
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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 13:08
Happy birthday, my 20th was last month, so I follow what my mother always used to say, "Growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional." If you really want your teenaged angst back, then by all means don't let your age stop you, the same goes for you to MIDN90. Personally I'd prefer not to be angsty but to each his own.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 13:18
Now get ready for the days, weeks, months, and years to kinda meld into one long "Ain't I dead yet?" dream like existence.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 15:54
I don't even remember how old I am anymore... It really does all just mold together.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 15:54 Edited at: 19th Jun 2009 15:55
Sid:

Don't worry, eventually you'll be dead and it'll all be over.

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Sid Sinister
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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 17:08
Quote: "If you really want your teenaged angst back, then by all means don't let your age stop you"


True, but adults DO need to act their act at times. I've known a few that I can't help but give the o_O face to. I think my old youth director is a good example of what your saying though. She's 40 put she's awesome to be around. She's a teenager at heart. I guess that's why she's good with working with teens!

Lol, thanks for all the dead jokes guys, and the happy birthdays There needs to be a birthday hat smiley.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 17:25
Quote: "She's 40 put she's awesome to be around. She's a teenager at heart."


Wait, that's a good thing? My life only started getting awesome when I turned 19. The majority of my teen years were not fun, and I would get annoyed by a 40-year old who acts like a teenager

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 17:57
Haha, Im afraid of hitting the 18 mark, .... ;(

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 18:40
You'll find things pick up over the next 5-6 years and then after that fall quicker than the FTSE.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 18:56
Quote: "Quote: "She's 40 put she's awesome to be around. She's a teenager at heart."

Wait, that's a good thing? My life only started getting awesome when I turned 19. The majority of my teen years were not fun, and I would get annoyed by a 40-year old who acts like a teenager"


I suppose it depends on what he means, a young, friendly and active spirit that's a bit childish, or a person who it miserable most of the time, responds to everything with 'ugh' and complains when she has to do something responsible and throws tantrums before running up to her room and covering up her crying with loud music.



If the latter, I can see you point. Of course the point of the quote is not 'be childish all of the time', but not let the growing old change you and allow yourself to be silly or have 'real' fun and not 'pretend' fun.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 19:18
I think the word 'Immature' would be a better one than childish. After all, some children are more mature than adults.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 19:28
Children may not have accumulated the years to give them knowledge, but they do not have raging hormones to eat at their wisdom.

But without knowledge that wisdom is misguided, and without wisdom knowledge is useless.

Uh... I think.

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 20:41
Quote: "I suppose it depends on what he means, a young, friendly and active spirit that's a bit childish"


That would fit her very well. A lot of people, my mom included, seem to regard 40 as the age to start acting like an old lady. Not her, she's zipping around like crazy!

Quote: "After all, some children are more mature than adults."


Too true

Quote: "but they do not have raging hormones to eat at their wisdom"


Eh, I still think people through out their 20's have raging hormones. I just think that they understand it a bit better and know how to compensate... sometimes. If you go to a Uni, disregard that last statement

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 20:49
Quote: "A lot of people, my mom included, seem to regard 40 as the age to start acting like an old lady"

My mum is 43 And she's some sort of actor

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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 20:49 Edited at: 19th Jun 2009 20:52
Well actually you don't stop being a "raging teenager" until 22 because that's when most males completely stop growing/developing. I'm 20 and still can't grow facial hair.

My dad says your 30's are actually the most fun years of your life, as you're not so naive anymore.

I too am a bit mistrustful of older people who act like teenagers. When I was 18 I've worked in retail stores that had their handful of late 30's guys and always wondered what they're doing with their lives. We still partied but they were definitely not anyone I looked up to.
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Posted: 19th Jun 2009 21:26
I've never met one of those "raging teenager"'s in my life and I'm constantly surrounded by teens. Guess I chose good company.
Oh and happy birthday Sid, enjoy getting one day older.


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Quote: "I've never met one of those "raging teenager"'s in my life and I'm constantly surrounded by teens. Guess I chose good company. "

I get this feeling all the time. Like 'shouldn't these people be trying to stab me or sell me drugs or something?'

Just realised that I forgot to say Happy Birthday Sid Have a good one!

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 01:29
I always wondered why they said the teen years are hard... I never had an issue... Happy child. I'm more moody and crabby now that I have to work, can't find a girlfriend and all that stuff. Never understood the whole teenager rebellion / independence issues... Just act your age and everything goes fine...

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im finally a fresh man in highschool... it sucks...
i am hated by everyone (except my 4 friends)just because i have a different sexuality
and i feel moody all the time
my anger is hard to control thats why i learn to vent it in my artwork and me playing piano and acoustic guitar...

so yeah you should be gld your out of your teenage years

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 02:10
Quote: "Well actually you don't stop being a "raging teenager" until 22 because that's when most males completely stop growing/developing. I'm 20 and still can't grow facial hair."


You mean the retards that have no brains, enjoy starting fights and constantly roar out loud anything that comes to their mind?

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Well there are enough people in their 30's who do that already, but what point are you making exactly?
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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 02:57 Edited at: 20th Jun 2009 02:58
Quote: "After all, some children are more mature than adults."


I hate when people say that because this is only true if the adult has a mental disorder. No, I'm not trying to be funny. The only people who say that some children are more mature than adults are children or teenagers themselves. When you get to be an adult you realize just how naive you were when you were young.

Of course there are ALWAYS exceptions (i.e. like I said, a mental disorder or mental disability). A "mature" child is not physically or mentally mature just because he/she is calm or shows aptitude. Just because a child doesn't make bad decisions, gets drunk, knocks someone up, or gets hooked on crack, that does not make them more mature than the adult who did that. Maturity is for the most part based on age, which is why they have different punishments for young offenders in most countries!

If you read about child geniuses they still like to hang out with young friends or play child games. There's no such thing as a child that is more "mature" than an adult (Benjamin Button doesn't count!)!

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 03:09
Quote: "but what point are you making exactly? "


I wasn't. I was trying to pinpoint what you meant by raging teenager.

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 03:35
My teen years were interesting. That was about it, not fun or something I will ever miss. As for rebellious, I'm not sure what it involves, but I feel far more rebellious now than back then.

Quote: "i am hated by everyone (except my 4 friends)just because i have a different sexuality"

Elaborate?

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 04:17
Quote: "I'm constantly surrounded by teens"

I really hope you're not over 30 Alucard...

Quote: "Elaborate?"

I think it's his way of telling us he's as bent as a two bob note.

I remember when i think i used to be more mature than most older people, when i look back now it seems that i wasn't(hell, i'm probably more immature now than i was, but i'm mature enough to know which situations require maturity, if that makes any sense). In a way i agree with Jeku that it is based on age but i think its more to do with the experiences you get in life, rather than just growing up naturally. I've been through some pretty bad patches, loved and lost and loved again (hopefully for good this time) and most of those experiences have taught me how to deal with similar situations in a calm and rational way, not just because i've grown older. Although sometimes i show symptoms of Ataraxia, where i go through stages of not caring about anything (its not as brilliant as it seems). I'm very fueled by my emotions so not feeling anything for anyone has ruined some good things in my life. Wait, i'm ranting, i'll stop here...

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 04:45 Edited at: 20th Jun 2009 04:46
Quote: "I wasn't. I was trying to pinpoint what you meant by raging teenager."


What I meant: raging teenager = raging hormones. You don't necessarily need to start fights or have a bad sense of humour to fit into that category. Examples would be when older guys talk about their sex lives 10-20 years ago.
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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 06:12
Quote: "Examples would be when older guys talk about their sex lives 10-20 years ago. "


Lol, yes, I see what you mean. One of my friends is like that.

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Quote: "Well actually you don't stop being a "raging teenager" until 22 because that's when most males completely stop growing/developing. I'm 20 and still can't grow facial hair."


Go south to the US of A and buy a few gallons of milk. Consume the milk within a week or so, and I can almost guarantee you'll be growing facial hair.
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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 10:59 Edited at: 20th Jun 2009 11:02
Our cows have testicles the size of basketballs. True story.

Quote: "I always wondered why they said the teen years are hard... I never had an issue... Happy child. I'm more moody and crabby now that I have to work"


Agreed. I always acted my age, for the most part (I'm sure there were a few rectal cranial inversions here and there). I never really hated the world or anything like that either. All in all it was sort of bland, but that's the way I wanted it to be. Maybe that's why I'm sort of sad to see those years go... could be either way though A) I miss the blandness or B) I regret not doing more I could have gotten away with at that age.

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 12:10
Quote: "I really hope you're not over 30 Alucard..."

Oh don't worry, haha.


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I am glad my teens are over. All the insecurity and all... think it is better now .

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Quote: "Our cows have testicles the size of basketballs"


That's called a bull. Try and milk a bull and you'll be lucky to survive as a vegetable.

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Quote: "Just because a child doesn't make bad decisions, gets drunk, knocks someone up, or gets hooked on crack, that does not make them more mature than the adult who did that."

I don't want to drag this into a debate but... yes it does. If a child is offered the choice to say, take cocaine, and they don't, but an adult does, I'd probably say that child is more mature than the adult.

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Quote: "That's called a bull. Try and milk a bull and you'll be lucky to survive as a vegetable."


Good call, didn't make that connection last night

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Quote: "If a child is offered the choice to say, take cocaine, and they don't, but an adult does, I'd probably say that child is more mature than the adult."

Why does something like this make an adult less mature?

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I don't see how maturity has anything to do with accepting drugs or similar things, maturity seems to me more like how a person reacts to things and generally how the person acts and thinks. People can certainly be mature and stupid, for example.


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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 19:15
I don't think maturity can be measured on one obervation or thought, like/dislike. It's more of a collection of personality traits. And who's to dictate what's mature and not. A mature person can do or like things that others would consider 'childish', but could just be so because the observer doesn't know the reason why he/she did/does that. There might be a very understandable reason for the behaviour that could be more mature than you would think. Curiosity is looked upon as childish, but is it? Depends on who you ask. Taking risks is childish I hear? This isn't something with a definite answer so there's little point trying to debate it, unless you're childish and need the attention.

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 20:25 Edited at: 20th Jun 2009 20:25
Quote: "In a way i agree with Jeku that it is based on age but i think its more to do with the experiences you get in life, rather than just growing up naturally."


I agree completely. Life experience and age sort of go together. If two people are adults and one has lived a sheltered life and the other has done many things, their life experience can be taken into account.

Quote: "If a child is offered the choice to say, take cocaine, and they don't, but an adult does, I'd probably say that child is more mature than the adult."


Not at all. Believe me, when I was 16 I thought I knew how the world worked. I would see some seemingly stupid decisions adults in my life made and would often think I never would make the same mistakes. Now that I'm 28 I realize my 16 year old self was still very immature. Maturity is all about age and life experiences. When you're 14 years old, no matter what you think, you are not more mature than any normally developed adult (i.e. not a vegetable or mentally disabled), regardless of the bad decisions they may have made.

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Quote: "I don't see how maturity has anything to do with accepting drugs or similar things, maturity seems to me more like how a person reacts to things and generally how the person acts and thinks. People can certainly be mature and stupid, for example."


When kids have to babysit adults because their strung out on drugs it matures them faster than anything else. A friend of mine named Jesse had an older brother (by 7 years) that he had to babysit when he was on drugs. Jesse eventually moved to another state so he could go on with his own life and stop worrying about his older brother who won't take his sage advice. Since then his older brother has been "jumped" several times (once getting hit over the head with a beer bottle) and was in a car accident, called the hospital which recommended he come in right away and not sleep... so he smartly decided he was going to take a small nap before going to the hospital. He's still alive but that kind of "adult" isn't an adult to me. He's older than me and I call him "kid".

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Posted: 20th Jun 2009 23:57 Edited at: 20th Jun 2009 23:58
Anyone can pull exceptions where they knew an older sibling or friend who was basically the equivalent of the region's hillbilly. Looking at just numbers, it's generally not the case.

Aging is a weird thing, every year you think that next year you'll know better, but something always surprises you. All young people can do really is just acknowledge what they don't know and focus at what they're already learned.

There IS life experience a younger person can posses that simply can't be beat with age. For example I've been living with my gf for almost a year now but I have friends 10 years older who can't say the same and therefore cannot comment on the experience to other people. Does that make me more mature?
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Quote: "For example I've been living with my gf for almost a year now but I have friends 10 years older who can't say the same and therefore cannot comment on the experience to other people. Does that make me more mature?"


No, because they still have 10 years more life experience than you.

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Posted: 21st Jun 2009 01:30 Edited at: 21st Jun 2009 01:31
Pretty much...the whole debate is pointless basically as you just won't know until you get there...

Or you're the main character from "17 Again". Which was actually a pretty good movie for whoever didn't glance at i.t
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Speaking from the position of having been at many of the age ranges mentioned above (I'm 60), I agree with Megaton's dad 100%. The 30's is far and away the best age range. Your maturity level is established (somewhat), you are still physically in good shape, and you have the disposition to fit in with acting younger or older, wild or established. You can chose what world you wish to live in - and change it from one day to the next. It's not uncommon for people my age or older to wish they were younger once again. When I do, it never crosses my mind to be a teenager again. I'd take the 30's any day.
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Posted: 21st Jun 2009 01:43
That's actually exactly what he said.

...

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Posted: 21st Jun 2009 03:47
Quote: "Elaborate?"

i like girls and guys...

-_-

and you arent missing anything... most teenagers are immature retards... but i shouldnt be talking o.o

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