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indi
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My Girlfriend hassles me when i want to stay home and code.
She calls it intanerd stuff.

Does your GF hassle you when coding?

Also what marathon length of coding have you done.
I just plugged another 8 hours on my game, got potions and mana potions totally refined and compass icons etc..

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adr
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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 14:31
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My wife (a phrase which I'll never get used to saying) hates my laptop - I may as well have a mistress. Whenever she thinks I'm coming to sit down with her to watch TV, the laptop comes out.


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Adr, same situation here (replace wife with fiance). Fortunately, though, I've got the desktop in the sitting room, which she uses to play games aswell, so I'm coding on the laptop right across from her, and we have a rule that at least once a week we have a night where neither of us use the computer.

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Tinkergirl
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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:11
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Personally, I'm thrilled when the bf sits down to do some coding - often he codes up some tool or application for me, or is trying out a new coding idea and wants to see if it will work. Always interesting stuff - and makes me feel better about coding too (I hope he doesn't feel like I'm abandoning him when I code until 11pm on a weeknight!)

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Fallout
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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:13
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Definitely. Whenever I've been in a relationship, game dev has been almost at zero. The only exception was my last GF who did a Computer Animation course, so had some appreciation for it. Plus that was a longish distance relationship, so I had time to myself. Actually, we even played Dungeon Siege together on the LAN for hours. That was pretty cool. But all other relationships I've been in, and most of the time with my ex, computer use provoke the delivery of a mega CR airbus of "NO".


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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:25
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LOL

Luckily the wife and I are both computer geeks, always working on work projects, or side-work projects, or for fun projects,we have to just be careful not to neglect "the bean" (our daughter Jessie) lol. My wife is not a coder however, she does graphics design, print layout, various media etc.



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Cash Curtis II
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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:26 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 15:40
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My wife coined the term 'Dorkbasic', although now that I am making money with my programming she is much, much more tolerant.

Quote: ""the bean""

Haha, we call our baby "the bean" sometimes.


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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:37
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My wife is a littel to "tolerant" if I get up to watch TV or something she will say "shouldn't you be coding!?" its not a question as much as a command

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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:43
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The trick is training 'm
I got her hooked on counter-strike and since then she doesn't mind me coding as long as she can play games on my other comp

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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 15:56 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 16:43
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if gf = true then coding=0

Music is a different story however... a lot of girls think it's cool. Although if end up spending eleven hours on a single song in one day (like yesterday - got up at 7:30 and didn't stop until 9:20 or so.. at night!) the cool factor diminishes a little.

Longest coding spree I went on was six hours - that was for the cinco de maya compo. I thought the deadline was sunday, but after doublechecking the rules friday morning I discovered friday WAS the deadline...! Keep in mind that some of the basic functionality wasn't in there yet, the bullets wern't working and the level system was nonexistant. Talk about da crunch


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Erm... 26 hours - final stretches of the old retro compo working on Jetpac2003. My fiance at the time (not anymore!) went nuts. She wasn't very nerdy, which is probably why we split up - I would really rather mess around on the PC than spoon on the couch watching Buffy or Angel or some other god awful chic-crud!.

I think part of the problem is that when they want to go out with mates, we let them - so they think either we're upto something, or we could'nt care less - all the while we just want a couple hours peace and quiet to code some. These days my biggest problem is my brother, he has a habbit of telling people I'm a nerd, especially his girlfriends mates .

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24 hours, for a 24-hour coding competition called RedEye. It was hosted in the campus of a college nearby, get an hour to download stuff you think you might need for your project (don't know the topic at this stage), and then you have 24-hours to write a game, in our case Lemmings.
Going against all intelligence we used Java for it, and after the 24 hours we had a nearly working version of it up and running, with great graphics as we were the only team to have brought an artist.

Ah, good times

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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 16:49 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 16:50
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48 hours on the dreaded TYTT competition. 48 hours straight, lots of Red Bull. After I submitted it I passed out on the floor next to the computer. Luckily the wife was out of town, so I didn't catch hell at all =)


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Mnemonix
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I generally spend between 6 and 12 hours in a normal coding spree, but if I come across an error which I can't figure out, I will stay at it until I have found the error and corrected it. Usually this makes my coding sprees much longer.

I also code throughout the night, waking up at whatever time I please, coding for what I please and then going to bed.

My life is boring atm

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Chris Franklin
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Quote: "I generally spend between 6 and 12 hours in a normal coding spree, but if I come across an error which I can't figure out, I will stay at it until I have found the error and corrected it. Usually this makes my coding sprees much longer.

I also code throughout the night, waking up at whatever time I please, coding for what I please and then going to bed."

Nice...[/sarcasm]

Well i gave up coding for my g/f and ever since i'll be honest i've been alot happier done alot lot more i won't droan on tho.

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the only female in my life is my mother. i can use my laptop and pc care free whenever i want
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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 17:33 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 17:33
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Quote: "the only female in my life is my mother"

Keepin it in the family, eh?


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Quote: "48 hours on the dreaded TYTT competition."


Heavy! - did you make it though?

I find that amount of thinking takes it's toll, I'm pretty useless when I get too tired - after 26 hours I know I was not working at my best, I think I sent it off then crashed out on the couch.

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:/

Chris Franklin, I resent the way you talk to your fellow coders now that you don't code. When you did code it was "OMGZ help" and "Fix this plz" and "what am I dooing wrong".

Now you talk to people(especially me) like "Why are you wasting your time" and "my life is better than yours because I don't code".

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Quote: "Quote: "the only female in my life is my mother"
Keepin it in the family, eh?"


rofl

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My girlfriend is fantastic - she doesn't mind me coding at all as she knows its something I enjoy doing and its my hobby...

My longest stint at WORKING was during my degree when I thought i'd be a good idea to leave my dissertation write-up till 3 days before the deadline. That was also the longest I've been without sleep... 72 hours. Technically it wasn't coding though - does it count? I've also done 3 solid days of gaming at a LAN party before. It was a 5 day party but I was beginning to feel ill and decided to not write off the last 2 days by pushing myself too far.

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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 17:40 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 17:41
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Quote: ":/

Chris Franklin, I resent the way you talk to your fellow coders now that you don't code. When you did code it was "OMGZ help" and "Fix this plz" and "what am I dooing wrong".

Now you talk to people(especially me) like "Why are you wasting your time" and "my life is better than yours because I don't code"."


er no i don't actually >.<
it's more of a "Why not cut down on coding because IF you do it for to long you ARE wasting your life" not "Why are you wasting your time" ,man you know what i can't be bothered said my point that's it o and mnem remeber when i first joined? all of irc seem to still hate me because i made a lot of mistakes that's your problem get used to it

Edit: Honest opinon , not flaming

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Benjamin
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Quote: "it's more of a "Why not cut down on coding because IF you do it for to long you ARE wasting your life""

Well why don't you bugger off and stop using the forums, they are only wasting your time.

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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 17:49 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 17:50
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Chris_Franklin, I would have to agree with Mnemonix on this.. You come on irc, and this is all you ever talk about -,-

Anyways.

I had a gf at some point, and was working on relearning java. She kept bugging me and bugging me about how i shouldn't code, because it won't get me anywhere. wrong type of gal for me then xD

Guess it just depends on what type of girl you find eh?

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Sorted.

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Posted: 20th Nov 2006 18:00 Edited at: 20th Nov 2006 18:02
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Quote: "because it won't get me anywhere"

Yeah... IT jobs are just so dead end! I mean the pay is great (edited for stupid mistake) and, with the right employer, they sometimes even let you work from home! It really sucks...

I also actually agree with Mnemonix on the Chris thing... Seriously - what do you expect to happen to you when you come onto a CODER's forum and tell them they're wasting their time? Do you expect everyone to turn around and say "God.. You're right! I'm actually gonna give up my hobby and one of the things I love doing because someone said so!"

I think its you thats wasting your time... In fact I might go as far as to say you miss programming and resent your girlfriend for taking it away from you. Why else would you stay around here? I mean, THAT would be a waste of time

Quote: "Honest opinon , not flaming"

Ditto...

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I can't really stick at coding for more than an hour or so. Does me eyeballs in.


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Wow Fallout, im shocked!


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Quote: "Yeah... IT jobs are just so dead end! I mean the pay is great (edited for stupid mistake) and, with the right employer, they sometimes even let you work from home! It really sucks..."


Yeah i know, i mean, they clearly suck. nobody wants them.


heh

And here i am trying to get one xD

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Can't help but agree with the whole 'Chrisp doesn't really want to leave' thing.

I'd also be tempted to point out that it's more likely the fact he can't code rather than any form of girl friend but that might sound like flaming.

I've never been into spending hours on end coding. Once spent about 9 hours mining coal on rune scape but I don’t really talk about that now

I once offered to help someone with a website and left it until the last moment. I did the whole thing in an 8 hour burst, actually learning html and css while I was going. Yeh it's a crappy website but now I'm loving web dev.

It would appear I've been bitten by the coding bug yet again...
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Quote: "I'd also be tempted to point out that it's more likely the fact he can't code"

Shhh... You'll get the thread locked

Quote: "now I'm loving web dev"

Cool! What do you do? I'm a webmaster for a company in London... PHP, MySQL, (X)HTML, CSS... We use a CMS called Drupal for pretty much everything now.

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Lol, nothing as professional as that. I started off offering (don't ask why) to make a website for a local club and thinking web dev was a load of poop because I was trying to use frontpage. Then I picked up a book (web development: the missing manual) and all was different.

Now I'm setting up a small website for a family member to put some photograms on with the chance of one of her arty friends paying to have their own set up when this is done. I know plenty of other people who might be interested in one as well. I'm hoping to build up a small but impressive portfolio over the next year or two that should help me either earn a bit of money on the side or land a nice full-time job in web dev when the time comes.

I can't really explain why I prefer web dev as opposed to game dev although I'm hoping to combine the two with some flash games when i get the time to buy myself a copy of Macromedia Studio.

It would appear I've been bitten by the coding bug yet again...
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Quote: "I can't really explain why I prefer web dev as opposed to game dev"

Same here - and I cant explain it either... Closest I've come is that you know that what you're doing is going to touch a larger audience than indi game making. Also - in the case of DBP - its cross platform (mostly) so you know you have a WIDER audience? Maybe... Maybe not...

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Stop rubbing it in, I don't have a girlfriend, agh! Had I had a girlfriend, I'd probably be dragged away, but then the girl I got my eye on the moment is always talking to people on MSN anyway, so I'm sure I were to go out with her, she wouldn't mind.

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Quote: "but then the girl I got my eye on the moment is always talking to people on MSN anyway"

So you hacked her webcam then?

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Shhhhhh!!! You weren't supposed to know that, I mean at least I make good use of my coding skills

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I told my wife last month... "You're going to learn how to program in Darkbasic.". She said "Ok" and I still haven't gotten her to program... yet.
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My wife can spend hours looking at fashion websites, so she really can't call me a dork now can she

I think I have it easy with her--- she doesn't get on my case ever. On the weekend if she wants to go shopping and I have something I need to do on the computer (or if I'm too lazy and just want to relax in front of the 360) she calls up her friends and goes with them.

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Quote: "24 hours, for a 24-hour coding competition called RedEye. It was hosted in the campus of a college nearby, get an hour to download stuff you think you might need for your project (don't know the topic at this stage), and then you have 24-hours to write a game, in our case Lemmings.
Going against all intelligence we used Java for it, and after the 24 hours we had a nearly working version of it up and running, with great graphics as we were the only team to have brought an artist.

Ah, good times"

Sounds fun, what college was it?
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I do get alot less work done anytime I have a GF and my current one is no exception. And now that she lives a 2 hour drive away from me, anytime im free or off from work, I'm all the way over there with my PC stuck here

Luckily I bring my laptop to work and can get some stuff done there. But even then alot of my time online is spent working on stuff for my website, instead of coding.

I know what you’re thinking (bring ur laptop to her house to work) well i do but since we live far away when we do get to see each other we are too busy making up for lost time

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there appears to be a rift between tv watchers and computer programmers.
I feel that quality time with your gf isn't watching a soap but doing something outside.
I think they feel better about the relationship if you sit down with them and vegetate like a stunned mullet in front of the tv.
I cant stand it! arg

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For me its School != Coding.

Girls haven't prevented me (yet) from coding. I always program from 10pm to 3 or 4am, so it doesn't get in the way.
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Carlow Institute of Technology, here in Ireland.

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Too much detail... far too much!

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Quote: "I feel that quality time with your gf isn't watching a soap but doing something outside."


We get up at 6am and get back from work at 8:30pm - there isn't much time to do outsidey stuff! We actually spend a lot of time together though - at least 3-4 hours a day in the car. Although the setting isn't perfect, we do talk a lot.


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We get on the same bus to work when she's not working weird hours (retail job) but that's only about 20 minutes in the morning when we're both still asleep. Luckily enough at the moment she has weekends off, so we get to spend that time together too, might change coming up to Christmas though

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Well I personally would much rather take my girlfriend out, than sit on a computer typing stuff. Really I dont see any comparison between the two, its totally one-sided.

Plus Im not surprised she gets annoyed, what a conversation:
Her: "Do ya wanna go out tonight?"
You: "No, I wanna sit in my room and code!"


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My gf was living with me over the past summer. She's stand over my shoulder and would be like "nope, thats dumb, make it do this instead". The results were good I guess, cause I finally won a DB challenge with space invaders. lol She's sorta like my project manager.

Quote: "And now that she lives a 2 hour drive away "

mine has gone back to school for her final quarter, 8 hours away!

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Quote: "Well why don't you bugger off and stop using the forums, they are only wasting your time."

Fine, Bye

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Natflash - thats fair enough, but a little black and white... Should she not understand that coding is not just sitting in a room typing... Its Creative, Challenging and (most importantly) the hobby of the boyfriend.

Any relationship where the partner cannot understand that the coder is not ignoring them, they're just enjoying their hobby, is never going to last. One of two things will happen...
1) The partner will feel resented and will either be eternally miserable or will breakup the relationship
2) The coder will give in and "go out" when they might sometimes rather be doing their hobby. This will make the coder resent the partner and will have a similar result to point 1.

Without understanding and flexibility, a relationship is impossible - and that goes for ANYONE, no just coders... people who enjoy kitting, car racing, coding, watching TV religiously, shopping or just mindlessly wandering around a park for hours on end could suffer the same fate if the partner either doesn't enjoy it themselves or doesn't "allow" the flexibility of "letting" them do it.

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