Quote: "I like my girlfriends personality, but I would dump her if she weighed 30 stone. Appearances are half the deal, and that's fact."
Thats total nonsense. I'm nowhere near 'handsome', yet I got the girl. I never watched my physique and I'm well known for not really doing my hair in the morning.
The trick is to use whatever you háve in favor of yourself, in favor of yourself. This could be a great physique (I've got nothing even near that), a beautiful smile (not me), being friendly or caring (
), being witty and humorous... ect. Even being a geek can be good if you do it the right way. I turned not doing my hair in some sort of nonchalant flair. Adapting to everyone won't help you. Be yourself, dare to be a bit different. It's the differences that stand out.
I've taken 'looks' from my list of 'how to assess people' totally, since I was 11 or so. Looks don't scare, influence or even give me an opinion of people anymore. I found my world really opened up to all sorts of subcultures and people after that. You'll find that this inbuilt mechanism to assess people based on how they look is, in fact, a limitation.
The point is, however, that looks
usually start some way of talking; the only cure to this would be to start the conversation yourself (and although I never found that discomforting, I understand some others do).
While Drew makes some valid points, that instinct will get females to prefer muscular types, in the end its not your looks, but your behaviour that will get you there. If you have it all, it's great, but thinking about how you act, treat and behave with them will get you so much further. Also remember that looks, too, are relative to culture (for example, in some countries they might just prefer someone weighing 30 stones).
The remark that he'd drop his girlfriend if she was 30 stones... well, I wouldn't find that comforting. I wouldn't drop my girlfriend is she was half-burned to death, had no hair left and weighed 30 stones. Like said, I don't 'use' looks. They give wrong impressions, and the people around me know that. I might seem a bit odd at first, but I
will start a conversation with you if I like you and I
will find out the correct way to talk with you and treat you. I've got to a moment when four girls fancied me at once, but alas, I was in love with a fifth. After eight months of trying, we got together.
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So the keywords are (faking) self-confidence (I fake it, lol), 'offensive' behaviour (not as in 'beat her up', but as in 'you'll have to make a move'), being yourself and knowing the other. Well, actually, knowing the other and adapting to that (without losing yourself) will be enough to get most of the girls.
They say some girls are just plain shallow and will seem to require looks above anything. Well, if they're looking for love (not sex), you won't find that type of girl. They áll fall for the right approach (which is individual with each girl). If they're looking for sex exclusively, well, ofcourse they'll go for looks.
I've had one girlfriend in my life, and we're together for over a year now. I've been hearing girls (even some of the popular ones) admit they like me often enough. Without looks, without confidence and with my 'geek tendencies'.
Oh and, concerning the DD-breasts, it has been proven that in that case, size doesn't matter. The shape/form is more important, I understood. I agree.
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